25 Fun Ways to be a More Playful Parent With Your Children


25 Fun Ways to be a More Playful Parent With Your Children

25 Fun Ways to be a More Playful Parent With Your Children

“Mommy, can you play with me?”

 

“Will you play with me outside?””

 

I was cleaning the kitchen, and had swept the floor before dumping a new load into the washer. The kids were outside but my oldest daughter kept coming into the house asking begging me to play with her.

 

With three kids, the odd number usually means two pair up and one is left on the outside. When it’s her, she has trouble playing by herself and will sidle up to the nearest adult for attention and companionship.

 

I used phrases to put her off like,  “just a minute,” and “when I’m done cleaning I can play with you.

 

Out of the corner of my eye, I saw her walk back into the house a third time. I was moving clothes from the washer to the dryer when she asked again.

 

“Can you play yet?”

 

“One more minute, I’m almost done.” I said without looking up.

 

My tone had a fleck of annoyance and was too sharp. I was nearly done, but truth be told, I could spot a hundred more things that really needed to be taken care of when I looked around.

 

She sighed and walked out of the room, heading in the opposite direction of the backdoor and instead for the stairs up to her room. Defeated.

 

What she said under her breath wasn’t meant to be heard it was so quiet, but it still cut me straight to my heart.

 

“You never play with me. You’re always too busy.”

 

My back straightened like a rod. The door to the dryer was still open and my hands were holding a bundle of damp clothes.

 

I squeezed my eyes shut and the pain of her words ran through me.

 

My mind replayed all the times the kids asked me to play with them and the times I put them off. The times I was busy cleaning or working on my computer, paying bills or making meals and never stopping what I was doing to just play with them.

 

She was right. I didn’t play as much as I should. Nor as much as I wanted.

 

Being a Mom, means that I’m always busy moving and doing something; packing lunches, folding laundry, shuttling to and from school or for sports. The busyness doesn’t stop often enough and when it does, that doesn’t mean I have any energy left to run around the backyard playing tag.

 

Sadly, I’m not the spring chicken I used to be.

 

I can’t remember the last time I was on the floor playing with the kids or putting together a puzzle. Unless they wanted to watch a movie on the couch and I could drink a cup of coffee as a bonus, you’d probably find me running around the house moving from one task to the next.

 

The seesaw balance between taking care of my children and taking care of household business was a delicate one. And it seemed that the seesaw wasn’t tipping much in their favor lately.

 

Don't let running a household keep you from being a playful parent
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RUNNING A HOUSEHOLD MAKES ME A LESS PLAYFUL PARENT

 

Having a clean house that’s tidy and clutter free is one of the ways that I know to manage the feelings of being a stressed parent who is trying her best to juggle it all.

 

When my home is looking sharp, my state of mind is that of a happy and calm parent. I don’t have dirty toilets, an empty fridge or an overflowing basket of laundry starring me down from the corner of the room when I crawl in bed.

 

And that’s a good feeling.

 

But all that a clean home comes with is also making me less attentive to my children and a less fun and playful Mom whose responsibilities get in the way.

 

The feelings Juliette had, I intimately knew them. I had felt that as a kid her age too and that made the feeling in my own chest hurt even more.

 

My parents never stopped to play with me, or my brother and sister. We were left to entertain ourselves and yes, this helped me have one heck of an imagination when I was left to my own devices of conquering boredom. But I also felt lonely and unimportant at times.

 

They were busy working or keeping the house in shape, and I understood this, but I never felt like a priority.

 

When those old feelings creep up, my heart stung in pain.

 

I didn’t want my daughter to feel lonely or that she didn’t take precedence over cleaning, washing and scrubbing. Because she’s far more important than a clean house, but when I put her off and can’t follow through with my promise to play with her, I let her down.

 

There are benefits to letting kids play on their own and to explore without being reliant on Mom and Dad to entertain them. Playtime with parents goes a long way to promote the parent-child relationship which leads to better communication, honesty and trust.

 

 

OBLIGATIONS ROB US OF OUR PLAYFULNESS

 

Being silly with your kids when the opportunity presents itself is wonderful, but how many times do we ignore or push off those chances to play because we’re backed up with everyday obligations and responsibilities?

 

This was a chance to show my daughter I could be a more playful parent.

 

If I let the opportunity pass me by, would it come around again?

 

I put the damp clothes into the dryer, started the drying cycle and slid the 100 other things I would have loved to tackle, out of my mind.

 

 

Play doesn’t just benefit my children, it benefits me the parent as well.  Being silly helps relieve stress and resets priorities when they’ve gotten out of focus. A clean house can wait.

 

25 Ways to have Fun and Be a More Playful Parent
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ONE TRICK TO MAKING PLAY A PRIORITY

 

When I can’t always walk away from my work or responsibilities on the spot, I set a kitchen timer for 5 or 10 minutes and work until the bell sounds and then walk away from it until later.

 

The sound of a bell going off makes the kids jump up in excitement and is a physical reminder to stop what I’m doing and go play, be silly and have fun.

 

My kids may not want to play with me tomorrow or next week, or next month, but for right now they do. I don’t want to miss those opportunities to play with them while I still have them.

 

 

25 SILLY WAYS TO BE A MORE PLAYFUL PARENT

 

Stop What You’re Doing and…

  1. Grab Ice Cream or a Special Treat
  2. Go for a Walk
  3. Tickle Your Kids
  4. Have a Dance Party – or even better, a Glow in the Dark Dance Party
  5. Have a Handstand Contest – or just do Handstands, Cartwheels and Headstands
  6. Take Silly Selfies or Snapchats
  7. Build a Fort
  8. Play Dress Up
  9. Play Hide and Seek
  10. Do a New Art Project with Your Kids
  11. Have a Water Gun / Nerf Gun / Water Balloon Fight
  12. Chase Your Kids Around the Yard or at a Park
  13. Let Your Kids Paint Your Nails
  14. Camp Out in the Backyard
  15. Play in the Rain and Jump in Puddles
  16. Make a Snow Fort / Snowman / Have a Snowball Fight / Go Sledding
  17. Have a Picnic on the Living Room Floor
  18. Go the Pool
  19. Wrestle with Your Kids
  20. Play Tag or Freeze Tag
  21. Color with Sidewalk Chalk
  22. Play Catch Together
  23. Play with a Hula Hoop
  24. Put on Music & Dance While You Make Dinner
  25. Go on a Bike Ride

 

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I’m Corinne, a Mom to three active little kids, including twins. I love coffee at any time of the day, believe afternoon naps are essential, am working hard at creating a meditation practice and filing our family life with experiences, not things.