Safety Rules Every Parent Needs to Teach Their Kids


Safety Rules Every Parent Needs to Teach Their Kids

Safety Rules Every Parent Needs to Teach Their Kids

From the moment your baby is born, your instincts tell you to protect your children. I don’t know about you, but it became my new worst fear once I became a Mom. In fact, you would do everything possible to protect your children from being harmed even if that means jumping in front of a moving vehicle to save them.

 

But, parents, there will come a time when you can’t always hold their hand, you can’t be with them every waking moment and they will begin to act out for more independence from you.

 

They’ll want to walk down the street by themselves or play in the front yard with other neighborhood children and eventually they’ll attend a school where they’ll away from you all day.

 

There will come a time when you will not be able to be in their presence to protect them.

 

But, that doesn’t mean you can’t talk to them about how to protect themselves by teaching important safety rules about strangers, their bodies, talking to them about what is right and wrong and what to do in scary situations.

 

This is an immensely important topic to discuss with
your children and simply requires taking the time to
communicate with them.

 

TYPES OF STRANGERS

It’s important for children to understand that not all strangers are bad strangers and instead teach them about warning signs and bad situations.

 

Strangers who tempt children with treats and rewards, who lure them to their cars with empty promises or who touch your child’s body when you say ‘no’ are bad people.

 

People you see at the grocery store, people at the gym, friends’ parents from school… there are millions and millions of people in this world and most of them won’t do any harm to your child but it is important to still teach your children behavior that bad people may use to take advantage of your child.

 

You do not want your children to think everyone they meet is a stranger and to be afraid of them.

 

WHO TO LOOK TO FOR HELP

If your children are ever in a situation that they need immediate help, do they know who to look to? This is something I go over with our children every month or by having a quick conversation in the car to reinforce all of these safety topics.

 

Teach your children to look for other helpful people when they cannot find you or become lost – a teacher, police officer, or a mom or dad with a stroller or diaper bag. Never to go to someone in a car or get into a car with someone who says they’re helping you.

 

Safety Rules Every Parent Needs to Teach Their Child to Protect Them


BODY SAFETY

It is your child’s choice whether they want to receive and give hugs, hold hands, kiss others and whether they want to be held or sit on someone’s lap.

 

Children need to know that decisions about their bodies and how it makes them feel are their own and they have a choice about their bodies, and also the power to say ‘no.’

 

Children should understand they alone get to decide who touches their bodies, even if it’s just for a hug. Never, should hugging, touching or kissing be forced or demanded, even among your own immediate family and relatives.

 

I have taught our children that they do not have to kiss grandparents if they don’t want to.

 

They don’t even have to kiss their parents or hug us if they don’t want to.

 

It is their choice and helps them understand the choice to say ‘no” and in turn teaches them to listen to their bodies and how touch makes feel – good, indifferent or bad.

 

Another important safety tip is to use the real names of body parts so that children aren’t ever confused by slang names. You want your children to be comfortable naming their body parts and talking to you about them so you understand what they’re trying to tell you, especially if someone has inappropriately touched or talked to them.

 

Be sure to show your children how to discuss their feelings about their bodies.

 

For example, if your children are ever at a play date or a relative or friend’s house by themselves and you pick them up, while you’re asking about the time they spent without you and what they did, make a point to ask about how they felt and if they felt safe the entire time. Was there ever a time they didn’t feel comfortable?

 

Teach your children how to understand their feelings and the feelings their bodies alert them about while being able to open up to you without reactions that jeopardize honest and open communication.

 

As a rule of thumb, in our house we say that hugs are ok if they’ve been asked and they are ok with it, kisses are not Ok unless it is your parents and any touching under your clothes or below their shoulders is never OK.

 

Here is another article about child predators and warning signs of someone who is grooming your child. 1 in 5 girls and 1 in 8 boys will be sexually abused in their lifetime – its frightening – so this is an immensely important read.

 

Important Safety Rules Every Parent Should Teach Their Child to Protect Them


STREET + CAR SAFETY

Teach your children about street safety. This includes looking both ways before crossing the street, walking on the sidewalk and not the street, holding hands and not running ahead, being aware of cars that are driving by or approaching you, backing up out of parking spaces and also awareness of other people that may be approaching you.

 

If you’re walking in a neighborhood where cars may be entering or exiting driveways, teach your children to stop before the driveway so they can look to see if there is a car approaching or leaving before continuing past the driveway.

 

Another topic in our house about car safety involves hot cars.

 

I taught our children at three years old how to unbuckle their car seats in case they are ever left in an overheating car.

 

We have told our children that if they ever, for any reason, get left or stuck in a hot car that is overheating and the windows are rolled up in warm temperatures, to unbuckle themselves from their car seats and to start honking the horn and not stopping until someone comes and helps them.

 


STORE SAFETY

Being separated from your child in a store – especially a huge big box store – is frightening.

 

Teach your children not to leave the spot they’re in once they notice you’re separated from them and to stand in place and yell your FIRST NAME at the top of their lungs until you’ve found them.

 

If they start running around the store and up and down aisles, they’ll easily get disoriented and finding them will be harder and take longer for you.

 

Yelling MOM works too, but if someone is yelling your FIRST NAME at the top of their lungs, you’ll more easily hear this over other kids in the store that may be having a meltdown and screaming for their Mom too.


PARENT’S NAMES

If your child gets separated from you and someone who is helping them asks them what their parent’s names are… finding “Mommy” and “Daddy” won’t be very helpful.

 

What will be helpful is if your children can share what your full name is – first and last name. This is something you should practice over and over and talk about many times so it’s ingrained.


GOOD + BAD RELATIONSHIP BEHAVIOR

Have an honest discussion about acceptable and unacceptable behavior and what abusive behavior looks like.

 

Sure, toddlers and kids go through an exploratory biting and hitting stage, but this isn’t what I’m talking about.

 

Have a discussion about relationships and what is good behavior – acting loving, being respectful, hugging, holding hands, talking calmly, etc. – and what is unacceptable and abusive behavior – hitting, punching, kicking, throwing someone, slapping, calling someone names, threatening, etc.

 

It may seem early to start this conversation if your children are little, but the more you discuss the forms of abusive behavior, the more aware your children will be and will ask for help and communicate if they ever encounter an abusive relationship personally or among friends, family or peers.

 

TO RECAP…  

There is a very marginal chance of anything happening to our children during their lifetime however, you can negate this chance ever further by having honest conversations with all of your family members about safety and practical situation preparation.

 

It may seem scary to talk about with children so little, but if they are ever in a situation with a stranger or they were lost, the skills you teach them to help be prepared can save their lives and reunite you much faster.

 

Are there any other tips you talk about with your children or topics you feel should also be discussed? I’m always open to learning more about best practices for child safety and prevention and would love to hear your feedback.

 

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6 Comments
  • Kristen says:

    These are such great safety tips for every child. We just started street and car safety but are figuring out ways to work on the others. Thanks for all the great advice, and for joining us for some #mommatime!

    • Corinne says:

      My kids are almost five and street safety is one of those constant reminders now that we like to test our boundaries. Glad the other tips will be helpful. Looking forward to more #mommatime!

  • Jennifer says:

    These are great safety tips to teach our children, We are working on several of these right now with our children. Particularly the street safety.

  • Lia says:

    While I fully appreciate the list of safety tips what I am wishing for is a how and a what. How do you discuss relationships and and abusive power? What do you say?

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I’m Corinne, a Mom to three active little kids, including twins. I love coffee at any time of the day, believe afternoon naps are essential, am working hard at creating a meditation practice and filing our family life with experiences, not things.